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The power and peace of principle-centered living
From time management to personal leadership

Use your principles and knowledge of importance and synergy to handle sudden “urgent” matters. Work with your colleagues to find solutions, instead of competing with them. Instead of managing problems; work on solutions. Build relationships while you work at it. Organize the week as a team, a family, or community.

The Peace of Results
As we integrate fourth-generation paradigm and processes in our lives, we find a different kind of peace:

·Peace in our ability to live, love, learn, and leave a legacy with balance and joy

·Peace in the development of our human endowments that empower us with character and competence in the moment of choice

·Peace as our roles cooperate rather than compete, as they become parts of a synergistic, living whole

·The transcendent peace of learning to listen to and live by conscience

Two stumbling blocks: Discouragement and Pride. To fight discouragement we need courage to face our lives. Think “Mind over mattress”, and make small promises to yourself and keep them. Gradually you will be able to make and keep bigger promises and have a full personal integrity account. Pride is a stumbling block because it makes us compare ourselves to others. The antidote for pride is humility.

Characteristics of principle-centered people:

·They’re more flexible and spontaneous. They aren’t chained to schedules and appointments. They see life as an adventure.

·They have richer, more rewarding relationships with other people.

·They’re more synergistic. They work with others to achieve a shared vision.

·They’re continually learning.

·They become contribution-focused

·They produce extraordinary results

·They develop a healthy psychological immune system. They can handle problems

·They create their own limits. They don’t work until they drop. They don’t spend until there’s no credit left.

·They lead more balanced lives.

·They become more confident and secure.

·They’re better able to walk their talk.

·They focus on their circle of influence, things they can do something about.

·They cultivate a rich inner life

·They radiate positive energy

·They enjoy life more.

Letting go

·Let go of paradigms that are popular and pleasing but based on illusion.

·Let go of things that aren’t First Things

·Let go of rational-lies-ing

·Let go of unnecessary guilt

·Let go of extrinsic sources of security

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You may be a skillful, effective employer but if you don’t trust your personnel and the opposite, then the chances of improving and expanding the business you deal with, are extremely limited.

It’s not critical for the employees to like the boss, but they have to trust him or her. If not, he won’t be able to lead them and the workers will have little motivation at work.

Truth and trust are connected together. You could be honest for years but one lie can destroy the trust you have built all this time and there is no doubt that regaining that trust is very difficult.

You have to be honest. Do not say “I don’t know” when you know. Be straight and say exactly what you have in mind. When you say “No” mean it. We have to realize that the work place is not a popularity contest. Tasks need to be completed and work’s goals should be accomplished with success.

Therefore, trying to be pleasant all the time will build obstacles to your job and disorientate you from your real goals at work.

Open your ears and accept criticism from employees or colleagues. It’s hard for every person to accept comments – especially negative – but in order to lead you will have to. Always listen to other ideas, suggestions and encourage open discussions. That doesn’t mean, in case you are the manager that you don’t decide according to your facts.

Demonstrate the trust. Just saying “I trust you” is not enough. You have to show it by assigning responsibilities and providing all the tools they need in order to succeed in the tasks you assign to them. When we say tools we mean training, information

Recognize the well done job. People need to be appreciated especially at work. When an employee is productive, and finishes the assignment successfully show your appreciation directly. People need the approval to be in public and the negative comments in private. It’s in human nature, we can’t change it, and so it is important to follow that rule.

To sum it up, you have to do what you preach, and be clear with your actions. When you say “No” or “Yes” mean them, and of course you have to give the example. If you enforce a rule at your company but you are the only one who breaks it, don’t expect the rule to last for long.

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The Peace of Results
As we integrate fourth-generation paradigm and processes in our lives, we find a different kind of peace:

· Peace in our ability to live, love, learn, and leave a legacy with balance and joy

· Peace in the development of our human endowments that empower us with character and competence in the          moment of choice

· Peace as our roles cooperate rather than compete, as they become parts of a synergistic, living whole

· The transcendent peace of learning to listen to and live by conscience

Two stumbling blocks: Discouragement and Pride. To fight discouragement we need courage to face our lives. Think “Mind over mattress”, and make small promises to yourself and keep them. Gradually you will be able to make and keep bigger promises and have a full personal integrity account. Pride is a stumbling block because it makes us compare ourselves to others. The antidote for pride is humility.

Characteristics of principle-centered people:

· They’re more flexible and spontaneous. They aren’t chained to schedules and appointments. They see life as an adventure.

· They have richer, more rewarding relationships with other people.

· They’re more synergistic. They work with others to achieve a shared vision.
· They’re continually learning.

· They become contribution-focused

· They produce extraordinary results

· They develop a healthy psychological immune system. They can handle problems

· They create their own limits. They don’t work until they drop. They don’t spend until there’s no credit left.

· They lead more balanced lives.

· They become more confident and secure.

· They’re better able to walk their talk.

· They focus on their circle of influence, things they can do something about.

· They cultivate a rich inner life

· They radiate positive energy

· They enjoy life more.

Letting go

· Let go of paradigms that are popular and pleasing but based on illusion.

· Let go of things that aren’t First Things

· Let go of rational-lies-ing

· Let go of unnecessary guilt

· Let go of extrinsic sources of security

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If you were a tree, then the Universal power of the Law of Attraction would give you exactly what you needed so that you could grow to your absolute fullest potential. When you realize that you and a tree are made up of exactly the same thing, it suddenly becomes apparent that we could all take a good lesson on personal achievement by learning how trees grow!

There is a common – although incorrect – belief that the only way to get anywhere in the world is to work hard. There is certainly nothing wrong with hard work, but it is hardly the “end all, be all” of success and happiness.

Rather than applying mindless hard work to any task that you want to accomplish in life, why not take a look at the way that the power of the Universe is expressed in Nature, and consider the method that is used there?

Consider the planting of a tree. Once you plant a sapling in the ground, what is required to ensure that the tree grows to health and vitality? If you work feverishly at planting that sapling, do you think that it has any more or any less chance of survival because you broke a sweat when you planted it?

What matters is that you planted it properly. The hole that you dug was the proper width and depth. The soil was appropriate for that type of tree. You packed the dirt in around the sapling firmly, but not too firmly. You might have even poured some water around the area to give the sapling its first chance to soak up moisture through the roots.

How hard you worked when you did all of those things means absolutely nothing to the survival of that tree. That you did those things properly will now come into play. Once you have taken the proper steps to get that sapling in the ground, Universal power takes over and that sapling does exactly what it is programmed to do – to grow. It simply follows the code of its design and starts to slowly – but very surely – grow into an adult tree.

Barring any catastrophic environmental factors or injury to the sapling itself, it will become a full-grown tree at exactly the same rate of speed that it would have grown anyway; regardless of how hard you worked when you were planting it. This is an incredible lesson that Nature has given us, and you should apply this lesson to your own life so that you can grow to your maximum level of happiness and success.

The power of the Universe applies exactly the same effort to your personal growth as it does to the growth of that tree. Regardless of whether you are working feverishly hard to improve your life, or if you are sitting in meditation for hours each day in order to find peace and happiness, the Universe will give you exactly the same consideration.

The reason for this is because of the Law of Attraction. The Universe does not understand or care how “hard” you are working or not working. All that is acted upon is whether or not you are sending out positive or negative vibrations which are created as a result of how you feel.

Since your body – just like the tree, and just like everything else in the universe – is made up of a constantly vibrating energy field, then the way that you vibrate creates the reality that the Universe provides for you. If you spend most of your time feeling happy, then the Universe will bring more positively vibrating things into your life, causing you to be even happier. On the other hand, if you spend your life worrying, full of stress, immersed in sadness, anger, or other negativity, then the Universe will just as dutifully bring you more of that as well.

The similarity between you and the tree that you need to understand is that the Universe does not apply any more – or any less – effort to what you “ask” for with your vibrations, even if you work very, very hard when you are asking.

In fact, depending on how “working hard” makes you feel, you could actually be causing yourself more harm than good! If working hard makes you feel great, and you look forward to the sense of accomplishment, then there are times when you should go right ahead and work just as hard as you want to.

On the other hand, if by working hard you are causing yourself to become stressed, over-tired, irritable, quarrelsome, angry, or frustrated, then your “hard work” is causing the Universe to simply bring you more of the things that caused you to feel those negative emotions in the first place!

The bottom line is this: The Universal power of the Law of Attraction will apply the same timeless and limitless effort to your “requests” every minute of every day for your entire life. You make those requests with your attitude about life and with your feelings.

Whether or not you work hard at making those requests is irrelevant to the Law of Attraction. All that matters is the type of requests that you are making. Keep a positive attitude, smile and laugh often, show Gratitude on a daily basis, and know that the Universe – through the Law of Attraction – will bring you more reasons to keep on doing each and every one of those things!

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What would you do if you had a squiggy grey jelly in a round container about the size of a football? You could of course scare your friends with it by getting them to touch the wet slimy jelly. Supposing the jelly talked to you though; supposing it created full surround virtual reality worlds you could explore, did your homework for you, designed a supersonic aeroplane, or cried – what would you do with it then?

Sitting inside your head, your brain is just such a pearly-white jelly-like substance that is the visible body of your mind. It appears quite small if you look at it. If you explore it in the right way though, it is bigger than all the sky with all the stars and all the planets and space. Because a healthy brain has about ten billion nerve cells working in it, and each little cell can connect with the other cells, your brain can make more patterned interconnections than there are atoms in the universe. The number of these connections is much bigger than ten billion.

Make this big number a little clearer. If you wrote the number one on a piece of paper, you would then have to stick not just one meter of paper strips together to hold all the noughts after the one, not even a thousand kilometers of paper, but ten million kilometers of zeros! That means your brain can do a lot more than you usually ask it to do!

The potato you ate yesterday remembers your address today!
We often take for granted some of the most astounding facts about our everyday life. They seem so normal we barely notice them. But just think, the potatoes or rice you ate yesterday is today capable of sitting and laughing at a television program. When you digested the food you ate, in some way that is truly astounding it transformed into your movements, and feelings, and being able to do maths and enjoy a video. Not even the brainiest person in the world has been able to make a robot or creature that can eat potatoes and change them into the ability to read this book. If we can already do that amazing thing, what else might we be able to do?

Little Brain – Huge Mind
Your experience of remembering things, laughing, enjoying television and knowing who you are is called your mind. So we are going to explore your amazing, unbelievable, wonderful mind. We are going to roam around in the lives of people who do things with their mind that some people do not believe possible.

You have an amazing mind too
Even though you probably have two arms, two ears, and are like other people in many ways, some things about you are completely different, You are unique. Not only is your body slightly different in such ways as your fingerprints, but also your mind is different and special. There may be things some of your friends can do that you can’t. If you think about it and test yourself though, you will find you have skills and abilities they do not. To explore some areas of your special ness, we will try out some of the secret methods people with amazing minds have used in practicing their unusual skills. Some of the things we will learn are how to remember things easily; how to move beyond our eyes and ears to sense things; how to let the body tell us what it knows; how our body can heal itself, and many more.

Get ready for the journey into mind
So get ready to meet some really interesting people. They will help you discover something of the miracle it is to be human, and some of the amazing things you are capable of. What these interesting people did in various ways questions some of the ideas many people have about our mind, what it is capable of, and what the limits of human ability are. Their lives suggest we are much more wonderful than is often thought, and are parts of a limitless and eternal existence.

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Pay attention to what you Read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you. Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant .

Thank everyone you know for being a part of your life,

Whether they were a reason, a season or a lifetime……………………………….

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Below you will find a variety of kiss types. If you find some that catch your fancy, feel free to try them :-)

Butterfly Kiss -
With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.
Cheek Kiss -
A friendly, “I really like you” kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner’s shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.
Earlobe Kiss -
Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.
Eskimo Kiss -
With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together.
Eye Kiss -
Hold your partner’s head with both hands and slowly move their head in the direction you wish your kiss to go… then slowly kiss up towards your partner’s eyes and give them a tender kiss on top of their closed eyes.
Eyelid Kiss -
While your partner is resting/sleeping with eyes closed, very very gently kiss the spot right below their browbone. A very intimate kiss.
Finger Kiss -
While laying together gently suck on their fingers. This can be very seductive and pleasurable.
Foot Kiss -
An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.
Forehead Kiss -
The “motherly” kiss or “just friends” kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.
Freeze Kiss (or Melt Kiss) -
Experiment with this fun kiss. Put a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing them the ice with your tongue. It’s an erotic and sensual french kiss with a twist of cold.
French Kiss -
The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the “Soul Kiss” because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth’s breath in the exchange across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this “The English Kiss”.
Fruity Kiss -
Take a small piece of fruit and place between your lips (juicy fruits such as grapes, strawberries, small pieces of pineapple or mango are ideal). Kiss your partner and nibble one half of the piece of fruit while they nibble the other until it breaks in half, allowing the juice to run into your mouths.
Hand Kiss -
Gently raise her hand to your lips. Lightly brush your lips across the top of her hand. Historically this kiss was performed with a bow, which showed deference to a lady.
Hickey Kiss -
The object is not to draw blood, but to gently leave a mark that will prove your interlude was not a dream. This is often included in erotic foreplay.
Hostage Kiss -
Cover your lips with tape and get your love’s attention. When they come near, make noises like you’re trying to tell them something and motion as if you can’t get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you’re trying to say tell them: “I’ve been saving my lips all day just for you!” Then kiss your love passionately!
Hot and Cold Kiss -
Lick your partner’s lips so that they’re warm, and then gently blow on them. The sudden cold blast makes for a sensual explosion, and they will often try it on you next, as well as get very passionate.
Mistletoe Kiss -
Surprise your lover by capturing them with a gentle holiday kiss under the mistletoe. This is also a good method for shyer individuals to steal a kiss from a potential lover.
Letter Kiss -
Send your lover a kiss in a love letter by writing the letter x several times in a row at the bottom of a letter such as XXXXX.
Lick Kiss -
Just before kissing, gently run your tongue along you partners lip whether it be the top or bottom one depending on the position of your lips. Very sensual.
Lip Sucking Kiss -
When kissing gently suck on their lower lip. This can be very exciting.
Neck Nibble Kiss -
Gently nibble up and down your partners neck. End with a gentle kiss on the lips.
Nip Kiss -
This kiss can create a very erotic sensation. While kissing your partner, ever so gently nibble on their lips. You must be very careful not to bite to hard or hurt your partner. When done correctly, this kiss ignites wonderful sensations.
Reverse Lips Kiss -
It involves standing above your lover and kissing them from over their head. This way, each kisser can take the hyper-sensitive bottom lip of thier lover in their mouths, and GENTLY draw blood to the surface of the lip by nibbling and sucking. A very sensuous, connecting kiss.
Searching The Cavern -
Use the lips and tongue to gently tickle and kiss your lover’s navel. Vary speeds and stroke to change sensation. Invigorating and intoxicating.
Shoulder Kiss -
Simply come from behind, embrace her, and kiss the top of her shoulder. This is a sensual, loving kiss.
Sip Kiss -
Take a small sip of your favorite drink. Leaving a little bit of it on your lips, kiss your partner. It is a unique way to create a sensual feeling and your partner will enjoy it.
Talking Kiss -
Whisper sweet nothings into your partner’s mouth. If caught in the act, simply say as Chico Marx, “I wasn’t kissing her. I was whispering into her mouth.”
Teaser Kiss -
Starting on the forehead, a sweet short kiss on lips, then move up the arms up to her hand, kiss her hand, then come back up her arm, to her face and then lightly kiss her lips till she wants a passionate kiss.
The Buzzing Kiss -
Gently place your lips against your lover’s neck , behind their ear. Now, send a shudder through their skin by gently growling and humming, vibrating your lips and cheeks as you do so. Move up and down the neck, over the bones of the face and lips. Stimulating and erotic when done correctly.
The Whipped Cream Kiss -
Dip your finger into some cool whip or whipped cream of your choice. Lick it off slowly, then embrace your partner and kiss them deeply letting their tongue slip over yours for a wonderfully sweet kiss. It’s very seductive and passionate.
Tiger Kiss -
Quietly sneak up behind your partner making sure they do not know what you are going to do. Out of the blue, grab them and gently bite their neck. Make sure to get a few good growls in too. This will surely surprise them.
Trickle Kiss -
Take a sip of a favourite drink and trickle it slowly into partner’s mouth while kissing.
Tongue Sucking -
A variation of the French kiss. During an open-mouth kiss gently suck on your partner’s tongue (not too hard because it may hurt). Very sexy :-)
Quickie Kiss -
When you’re in a rush. Often the nose gets it rather than the lips.
Vacuum Kiss -
While kissing open-mouthed, slightly suck in as if you were sucking the air from your partners mouth. This is a playful kiss.
Wake Up Kiss -
Before your partner awakes lean over and kiss their cheek and move over giving soft kisses until you reach their lips. Definitely a more than pleasant way to wake up!

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When thinking about alternative medicine, most people picture plants, crystals, needles, maybe some bugs and leeches, but few realize that jokes, humor and comedy are truly medicines, in their own right. It has long been established that optimists live longer than pessimists, but now there is some hard evidence that people with a better sense of humor also have longer and healthier lives.

There are now various associations and physicians specialized in the so-called therapeutic humors, who are still investigating the roles of laughter in our lives. Perhaps the most obvious of these roles is that related to the social life – jokes often allow people to connect and to bond, and sharing a good laughter is a good method to integrate in a team, to get along with the coworkers, neighbors and so on. This function is vital from the point of view of mental health, since it reduces loneliness and, with it, depression and other problems associated with it. You don’t have to be trained in stand-up comedy in order to say something funny, sometimes all you need is a change of perspective or the courage to make fun at your own expense.

Humor is an invaluable asset in crisis situations, when it helps us calm down and reduce the levels of stress It is often considered that, among patients with very severe diseases, those with an upbeat approach, who are capable of making jokes about their situations, have the best chances to defeat the illness. So far, there have been no scientific studies to prove this, but the patients themselves report feeling better after joining an activity with humorous potential, even if it’s just watching a comedy show together with some friends or with other patients.

Laughter increases the pain resistance level, but the theory is still not proven. In fact, very few studies have yet been made about the relation between comedy and health, but those existing seem to indicate that a good joke may lower the blood pressure, improve memory and cognitive functions and boost the immune system.

There is also a “bad” humor This category includes the approach that makes people feel miserable about them, or angry, upset as well as the skeptic and cynic attitude, which is often the front for deep depression and indifference. Jokes directed at other people are also “bad” humor, along with ethnic, racial which are born out of frustration, not out of optimism and cheerfulness. Also, people who often make fun of themselves hide a low self esteem, which is only worsened with every funny joke they invent

If you decide to use laughter as a therapeutic method, the first obvious issue is that there are no harmful side effects, and you’ve got nothing to lose. The second issue is that you can actually improve your sense of humor in time, same as any other skill or ability, by constant training and exposure to jokes and comedy. When you read the paper, don’t forget to check out their daily cartoon too. Spend ten minutes every day reading jokes, and, when you find some you like, share them with your friends.

Try to find the funny side of the small things that happen every day around you – there is always something absurd or plain stupid going on right near you, which may provide five minutes of good laugher.

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What are you doing with your Life: would you say you are living your dream; or are you living from hand to mouth, making the best of things, just getting to the next week – what we might call: existing rather than living?

If you are living your dream, then well done: you are truly on the road to success. If you are not living your dream – or even if you have no dream at present – then do not despair because this little book was written for you. We are going to help you to find your dream, develop it and then to actually achieve it!

If you think about it, nothing at all that now exists within our experience of physical reality did not first exist in the mind of the person who made it or brought it into being. In all cases, everything is created twice: the physical creation follows the mental creation.

To succeed, you must have a dream, or you may prefer to call it a vision – and you must completely commit yourself to its ultimate fulfillment – that is the essence of the mental creation.

Let it really sink in because it is true that you can have anything you want; you can be anything you want to be; and you can do anything you want to do.

Once you have your dream. You too need to demonstrate that kind of resolve – and let me tell you plainly – you are capable of it!

It requires you to take actions that are congruent with your wishes in order to translate them into reality, but the first step is to have that dream- your own dream, not anyone else’s ideas about what is best for you in life – and then absolutely commit yourself to its achievement.

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Thankfulness: a virtue and a dynamic – activates the Law of Attraction

Thankfulness: a positive emotion involving a feeling of indebtedness

Attitude affects so many things in life. Sales-people are told to maintain a positive mental attitude because it ultimately affects their sales; sports-people are told to cultivate a winner’s attitude because it affects their performance. The laws of success tell us to cultivate a grateful attitude but why should thankfulness affect our success?

It may be difficult, at first, to see exactly how thankfulness, or gratitude, can be such an important key to your success, but by seeking to maintain an ‘attitude of gratitude’ you are indeed tapping into the timeless laws of success.

Thankfulness is fundamentally related to positivity and negativity. It is so much easier to be positive about your life and the things that are going on in it right now when you are grateful.

On the other hand, having an attitude of gratitude impacts your countenance and your general outlook on life; and people generally will prefer to work with happy, cheerful, grateful people than miserable, down-cast, merchants of doom and gloom. As a consequence truly grateful people, literally attract opportunities that others miss or even possibly repel.

To help acquire this positive attitude, consider the idea of keeping a Gratitude Journal. Would you, every day for a period of one month, be prepared to actually write down all the things for which you are grateful? What do you think might be the result of engaging in such an exercise?

Three different groups of people were required to keep daily journals. The first group kept a simple diary of all the events that occurred during the day, the second group kept a record of only their unpleasant daily experiences. The final group made a daily list of everything for which they were grateful i.e. the kept a Gratitude Journal.

The exercise of daily gratitude resulted in higher levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism and energy. So let it really sink-in …

• A Grateful Heart Cannot be Cynical.

• Gratitude is Fundamental to Maintaining an Optimistic Outlook.

• The Exercise of Thankfulness activates the Law of Attraction.

Additionally, the gratitude group experienced less depression and stress was much more likely to get involved in helping others. They also exercised more regularly and made more progress toward their personal goals.

Thankfulness is an attitude and an important key to success. It is an attitude we all need to learn to acquire – particularly when we feel we are in difficult circumstances. So learn to be grateful.

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